by Debra | Jun 27, 2016
I think we all would like to Avoid drama in our life, right?
Crying and smiling masks in hazy light.
What is drama? Drama is a conversation that simply goes nowhere. Both parties try really heard to make their point, as they feel as though they are right. When conversation escalates, thoughts and feelings can often lead to aggravation and frustration. We often lack mindfulness in these key moments because our triggers overpower us. When we refuse to look at our part in the issue we naturally blame others for our discomfort. The only way to stay out of drama is to do your own personal work. If you can look at why you are triggered without blaming others, then the drama stops dead in its tracks.
I will share a story about a client of mine who was feeling worthless, not good enough and insignificant. She took all this pain and projected it on her husband. “Why does he not love me enough?” When she blamed her husband, he defended his position because he didn’t want to feel like he did something wrong. As the drama progressed, I told her to sit down and do some trigger work. After settling down, she recognized that her feelings were actually inside of her and not directed at her husband. When they discussed the trigger together, she let go of projecting and blaming her husband for all the pain she experienced by feeling worthless. She needed to understand for herself before her husband could understand how she truly felt.
With drama the argument goes round and round in a power position of who is right. We engage in drama when we try to make people behave in a certain way with the hopes of us feeling better once they change. The drama starts right at the moment we go outside of ourselves.
So for all of you who have learned this trigger work from me in either a retreat or other settings, make sure to hold yourself accountable and continue the work so you don’t go back to old patterns of belief and projecting. For those of you who want to know more about this technique, I would love to share it with you. It will truly change your life.
This is why with every retreat whether it be an intensive individual retreat, couple’s retreat or a mother-daughter retreat, mentoring afterward may be a good way to solidify your learning. I do offer to aftercare sessions for all retreats.
Shifting old limiting beliefs through our little girl/ego is not easy. This takes practice and awareness. So if you are interested in preventing drama in your life, you may want to consider an individual retreat or mentoring.
by Debra | Jun 20, 2016
Being conscious means not sleeping on the job! It means being awake!
Spirituality concept
Going through your day with awareness, not being on autopilot. The majority of people on this planet are sleep walking and don’t know it. They get up in the morning, drag themselves to the coffee machine, take a shower, go to work, work, come home, fix dinner, watch a little TV, go to bed exhausted. Get up a repeat the same mundane experience over and over.
I try to live my life as consciously as possible by staying awake to what is going on in my day. I get up in the morning and greet my day and either hike in nature or sit and at least get a 5 minute meditation in. When I hike I go to a certain point on the hike and say my gratitude and intentions for the day. This really sets the tone for paying attention to how my day unfolds. Meditation does the same thing. It grounds me in walking through my day awake. When I get to my office, down the hall, I look at my day and see what it has in store for me and how I might be able to affect the people in my day positively. Now, sometimes during the day I find myself going on autopilot, it’s natural, although I try to wake myself as soon as possible.
Another thing that happens to get in my way of living consciously is all the stimulation the world has to offer. My phone, emails, internet, my mind, everyday daily activities. It’s important to bring ourselves back to the present and look at what is important to us. It’s a daily practice to look at how you want to live your life and take the action to do it.
A few questions to ask yourself would be:
1. Are you on Autopilot?
2. Are you doing what you love in your career?
3. Are you spending quality time with the ones you love?
4. Are you overweight and eating for comfort or out of habit?
5. Are you bored with your life?
6. Are you walking through your life not knowing what you want out of it?
7. Are you stuck in the drama of your life instead of the learning?
If you have answered yes to any of these questions, it might be time to WAKE UP!
I heard a great story about a man who knocks on his son’s door. “Jamie,” he says, “wake up!” Jamie answers, ” I don’t want to get up, Papa.” The father shouts, “Get up, you have to go to school.” Jamie says “I don’t want to go to school.” “Why not?” ask the father. “Three reasons,” says Jamie. “First, because it’s so dull; second the kids tease me; and third, I hate school.” And the father says, “Well, I am going to give you three reasons why you must go to school. First because it’s your duty; second, because you are forty-five years old, and third, because you are the headmaster,” Wake up, wake up! You’ve grown up. Your to big to be asleep.
It’s time to wake up, your to old to be asleep. if you need help waking up, looking at your life and how it’s not working for you, let’s talk about how you can be more conscious and live your life with more passion and zest.
by Debra | Jun 13, 2016
Are you learning from your life Challenges?
Have you ever found yourself climbing over one big obstacle and you barely make it over that one when you see the next one lined up and ready to go? It’s exhausting just thinking about it, let alone going through each one, whether it’s an illness, a divorce, a difficult situation with a partner or kids, or simply pressures at work. Sometimes we feel like we can’t breathe, like we are almost under water, barely treading. In each of these moments, we feel like we don’t have the strength to make it through.
You might look around and see that others don’t seem to be having the struggles that you’re having. This is when one of your old beliefs might come creeping in that says, “Life isn’t fair.” This will give you the opportunity to explore this old belief and shift it.
The reality is that, this is life!
Life is up and down and sometimes the downs stay awhile. Sometimes, they stay a lot longer than we would like. However, the longer they stay, the more time we have to work on shifting the old, limiting belief. Everyone suffers with challenging situations in life and some obstacles seem way bigger than others while some seem way smaller. It would be nice if we could be grateful for the struggles and see them as a learning opportunity, and that as we work through them, others will also get the benefit.
If you take a moment and look at all the obstacles you have overcome in your life, you may be amazed at the fact that you are still standing. This in itself is a great learning opportunity because you can see how strong you are in the face of adversity and how this type of situation has built up your stamina. We are always stronger than we think. If we learn to view each struggle as an opportunity and roll with it, it will help in the frustration.
A lot of times, it’s the resistance towards the situation that causes the suffering. Imagine looking at a situation, like losing your job, as: “The Universe has something bigger and better planned for me”, instead of spending all your energy wishing you still had your job or being angry at your boss for firing you. Take that energy and look at what good things may come from it. This is a little harder to do with an illness, although I have talked to a lot of people who have said that their illness was indeed such a blessing. It taught them how to be in the moment and love deeply from their heart.
So, whatever you are experiencing in your life that is keeping you in the suffering, I suggest you look deeper into the why! And an intensive retreat can show you how to connect with your deepest self and rejuvenate.
by Debra | Jun 6, 2016
This is another article I did in the Imagine magazine about having empathy. To view the rest of the magazine, see the link below.
Got Empathy?
Is empathy something that some people are naturally born with and others aren’t? Is it a learned trait or an inherent quality to be brought forward? How can we help our youth deepen in empathy?
There is a significant amount of neurological research today that indicates the prefrontal cortex is the last part of the brain to mature. In fact, it doesn’t become fully formed until a person reaches his or her mid-twenties. These studies say that due to an immature prefrontal cortex, teenagers tend to make irrational decisions and exhibit a poor sense of empathy. I can partially appreciate these conclusions because I have worked with teens that exhibit a sense of invincibility and have a lower fear factor than most adults. But as far as empathy goes, I’m not so sure I agree.
In my mentoring practice, I see many teens that express concern and caring for others, including their parents. I also see the other side of
the spectrum where teens seem to be completely self-absorbed. I’ve often wondered why it is hard for many of them to have real experiences of empathy.
Here are a few my observations:
Teens often do not take time to stop and think about how their actions might affect themselves, let alone others. They are more inclined to be running off to do the next exciting thing. This can set up a habit of making the same mistakes over and over. Interestingly, it just doesn’t occur to them to do anything else.
Teens are me-centric. As parents, we actually train them to be this way when we allow our world to neurotically revolve around their needs and desires. When teens are caught up in their emotions and hormonal ups and downs, it can be difficult for them to transfer any sensitivity or concern to someone else. Many teens have challenges expressing how they feel. Asking them to put themselves in someone else’s shoes and imagine how they feel might not be easy.
Bottom line: I believe it is up to us as parents, guardians, and teachers to use opportunities that arise to help bring forth the inherent, and often latent, capacity for empathy in our youth. We can do this by taking time to talk with them about situations that might come up in school. Ask questions like, “What would it feel like if you had a learning disability and the kids at school were making fun of you and you were eating lunch alone everyday?” Engage in dialog about difficult issues around the world, and not just about what is happening, but how the people and even animals must feel in those situations. Expose them to challenging conditions and have them consider what it would be like if it were actually happening to them. It’s hard to cultivate empathy for others when you don’t take the time to slow down and imagine walking in their shoes.
Recently I was introduced to a young woman named Erin Staadecker, who is currently the program director for seniors in an assisted living facility in Seattle. She shared some of her earlier experiences that led up to a college project where she put herself in the shoes of a homeless person and what she learned about herself.
Erin’s story
I was raised by two highly socially-mindful parents who brought me to homeless shelters since the age of three; I endured my own trials with adoption and personal loss and grew up in a generation that speaks fairly candidly about racism, sexism, classism, and any ism we can rally around. To top it off, I’m a woman! So I should have this handled. Whatever the true source of human empathy, I’m discovering it’s a mountain with no top, and my relationship to it is constantly transforming.
When I was four I explained to my mother, very matter-of-factly, that we are all brothers and sisters and we need to take care of each other. I recall in fourth grade, standing up for the nerdy kid being bullied at recess. As one of the “cool kids” I couldn’t exactly identify, but was nonetheless intuitively called to action. Even after I moved to a different town, he and I wrote letters because somehow I knew he would need my friendship. Had I known the word for it at four or ten years old, I probably would have called that empathy.
It’s no surprise that when I got to college at the University of Arizona, my friends and I started the Social Justice League—not to be confused with the league of universe-defending superheroes, although we often fashioned ourselves as such in the name of the aforementioned “isms.” We hosted lectures, demonstrations, peaceful marches, fundraisers and the like to address issues ranging from sex trafficking, immigration and fair trade as the catalyst for social change, to religious intolerance, domestic partnership benefits, and LGBTQ rights. We were an extraordinary group of young men and women with a huge commitment to a world that works for everyone and no one is left out. Years later, I’m proud to say our Social Justice League members have continued with vocational work to affect change in their communities, institutions, society, and the world.
In Fall of 2009, the Social Justice League chose to spotlight the issue of homelessness, particularly given that Tucson’s homeless community was largely hidden due to privatization of sidewalks and laws about sleeping in public. Over 17,000 homeless people lived virtually unseen in the city. Despite being one of the world’s large human rights issues, homelessness was silently spreading in our own backyard.
We quickly realized that to make a difference we couldn’t simply watch a movie, hand out a pamphlet, or merely picket to “end homelessness.” We wanted to understand it, experience it, and to really author our own experience, we had to live it. So we decided to get as close as we could get. For one week, about 20 of us surrendered the luxuries of privileged life: no showers, beds, stocked refrigerators, cell phones, computers, washing machines, or money. Each person was allowed a change of clothes and whatever schoolwork we needed for the week (we were conducting this simulation on campus, after all, and were still expected to attend class). If you had asked me then if we were out to discover empathy, I probably would have said no, we were out to “raise awareness,” “put a face to homelessness,” “educate our peers,” “raise civil discourse,” or something like that.
During the day we built Tentropolis, a tent city on the UA’s campus mall, very central to passersby and hard to miss. When not in class, we confined ourselves to this area. We dined from a soup kitchen provided with leftovers from campus dining services. At night we packed up our few belongings and slept in a mock shelter, complete with nightly registration protocol and a hard gymnasium floor. Tentropolis participants spoke up in their classrooms and a few of our classmates came forward as being homeless youth, living out of their cars and barely scraping together tuition. Community leaders, activists, and members of the homeless community joined us in demonstration. We collected donations for a local shelter, and yes, there were still picket signs. As the universe would have it, on the first night of Tentropolis, one of my dear friends was killed in a tragic accident. I was overcome with grief but let it become a part of my Tentropolis experience. A homeless woman would have to experience her grief all the same.
Even though we were in our early twenties, we were still not arrogant enough to say that we now “understood” homelessness, or had actually been homeless. We only went a week without the luxuries of home, but we still had the suspended promise of a home at the end of seven days. I also knew I had the support of friends and family supporting my cause, as well as professors who endorsed our work. But that week challenged my senses, my values, my comfort; it triggered my fight and flight instincts, left me feeling helpless, empowered, annoyed, and vulnerable. I grieved the loss of a friend and felt naked in front of people. What I got was a deep connection with people—with the experience of being human—that is available when I am willing to make myself vulnerable to someone else’s experience. I discovered humility when I look at a homeless man begging for “anything helps” at an intersection, and that I have no idea what that person is dealing with. They are still human, just like me. I may not completely share or understand their feelings or experience, but I still honor them. Tentropolis allowed me to give up the right to know someone’s story at first glance. I discovered an access to love.
Therein lies a dilemma, and the next transformation in my relationship to empathy. Tentropolis was six years ago, and I can’t always undergo a week-long simulation to “stand in another’s moccasins,” as my mother would say. It’s also easier—and safer—to show empathy to a stranger. Even now as I embark on a career in Assisted Living and Memory Care, caring for people with Alzheimer’s and dementia, which requires a high level of empathy, I cannot, nor do I want to “understand or share” the feelings of my residents. I cannot locate myself in their brains; honestly that terrifies me. Yet I still possess an extraordinary ability to be with my residents’ feelings, without making them wrong for that which is no longer in their control. Do I get frustrated? Absolutely. Am I always the beacon of empathy, grace, and patience? No. Sometimes I turn off my empathy to avoid being a puddle on the floor.
So my next step: having empathy unconditionally for the people I love the most, and being empathic towards the people who scare me.
by Debra | May 30, 2016
Here are a few daily practices to help you stay connected to your HIgher Self!
I was talking with a client the other day and she hadn’t seen me for about three months and was really living out of her lower self/little girl. Things got very busy at work and she had some family issues come up. When things get busy and issues with family, work, or health arise, we tend to go on autopilot and that’s when our little girl hi-jacks us.
This is why having a personal, daily practice in place is so important. Our daily practice helps us stay awake so that triggers don’t continue to build up then eventually kick our butts. If we don’t keep this work in the forefront of our mind, we go on auto drive and the automatic place to be is in our lower self, which acts out of fear. We have to be very committed to bringing our higher self in on a daily basis. If we don’t, we’ll live out of our little girl/lower self. This means we’ll be reacting to triggers and expanding our old beliefs instead of strengthening our higher self and coming from a place of love instead of fear.
So let’s look at some things we can do to keep us connected to our higher self in our daily practice.
- Meditate-sit quietly and just watch your thoughts go by, without attaching any story to them.
- Have a conversation with your Higher Power and ask for help living out of a higher place.
- Read an excerpt from a spiritual book that inspires you.
- Connect with the earth, even if it’s going outside barefoot and looking up in the sky and being present to that moment.
- Set up daily alarms on your phone that remind you to stay present to your growth and purpose, such as: Above all else I want to live through my higher self, Breathe and connect, Connect with my higher self, I am a spiritual being in a physical body, Who am I living through at this moment?, etc.
- At the end of the evening, connect with your Higher Power and ask how well you did at seeing things through their eyes.
- Say out loud the people, the things, and the triggers you were grateful for.
- Pray for people you know and people you don’t know in the world who are suffering.
Add anything you can think of to this list to help remind you to live through this beautiful space of love and compassion. It must be a daily practice or life will just happen and we will get caught up in the physical actions of the world instead of living through a spiritual, higher self.
by Debra | May 23, 2016
Is it possible to be peaceful out in the world if we don not have Peace inside ourself?
When looking out into the world, what we see out there shows us where we are as a collective consciousness, because the way we interpret the world is an indication of what is going on inside of us. So, if we see people treating each other without care, it’s because somewhere inside of us, we’re treating ourselves without care.
When we see a world in chaos, we feel compelled to work on the situation to bring it to peace. The problem is if we aren’t aligned within ourselves first, we won’t be able to shift outside circumstances either.
Peace starts in our own hearts and behaviors, and then, and only then, can we take
peace, love, and compassion out into the world.
Once we’ve found this within, we’ll be able to share it with our family, friends, our community and the world. Some of us might already be doing this, but most of us are still working on our own internal belief system to come into a more peaceful relationship with ourselves.
Even if you have worked on and achieved a significant amount of this internal peace, chances are you may still experience disturbing thoughts and behaviors. For those of us who have achieved greater peace, often times we are still limited to an awareness of our thoughts and what actions we want to take, but don’t. We have the ability, most of the time, to refrain from acting on negative thoughts and manage a more peaceful place inside ourselves. The more we slow down and observe our thoughts, the easier we can manage them.
When we find ourselves living in less chaos, peace seems to naturally find its way to us on a deeper level. If you don’t have a teacher to help you learn more about your behaviors ad thoughts, I highly suggest finding one that can point out those shadow sides that you aren’t able to see.
When we’re able to live in peace within ourselves, we can show up differently for our partners, family, friends and the world. It’s also through our practicing that we show the people around us what it looks like to live more peacefully.
by Debra | May 16, 2016
How do we stay positive around people that are wrapped up in the drama of situations?
If you’ve made the commitment to think positive no matter what, you’ll need to keep an eye out for triggers that could spark your inner negativity. We all
have them. A bad day at work, a fight with your spouse or even a nasty cold virus could get you feeling all gloomy. However, one of the most powerful negative influences that any of us deal with is each other.
Getting Pulled into Negativity by Friends
Not everyone understands the power of positive thinking. In fact, most people are stuck in habitual communication patterns that involve complaining, criticizing others and refusing to take responsibility for their own happiness. If you’re aware of this, you can most likely steer any given conversation in a positive direction, even if your friend is on a real negative rant. In some circumstances, you can directly acknowledge the negativity by making a joke about it and changing the subject, but if you think something like that might upset your friend, you will have to find sneakier ways of making things more positive.
Accepting People as They Are
If you’re trying to keep things positive, and your friend is ignoring your attempts, keep in mind that negativity can’t be avoided in every situation. Sometimes, we need to encounter negative things and survive troubling moments in order to grow. If helping a friend see the positive side doesn’t work, try simply listening. It’s important to give people space to vent and learn at a pace that feels natural for them. You can’t force someone to see the bright side. If you refuse to accept anything but positivity and shut people out for being negative, you could miss out on the chance to really help people and to grow. Try to lead by example and remember that there are very few truly negative people. Everyone is doing their best.
Seeking New Connections
One of the best ways to increase the amount of positivity in your life is to seek out other souls who understand the power of our thoughts. You don’t have to dump your old friends to find new ones. It’s fine to have lots of different people in your life, but the more positive people you can add to your team, the better. Not only can they help you, but they can also become pillars in a strong community of positive thinkers, which will help influence the people who are still struggling. As you and your friends work to improve the energy around you, you’ll be amazed at the great things you can attract.
by Debra | May 9, 2016
I saw this post on Facebook today and thought it was amazing and very enlightening. It is regarding being in abusive relationships and the part we play. I think it is hard to always look at your part and the learning, especially with abuse. Please read the following and check in with how you feel afterwards.
Facebook Post:
“I know so many women, myself included, who get involved with men who do not treat them with love, care and respect. The problem is not the man!! Don’t ever think it is. The man is just being who he is. He is perfect as he is. The problem is … YOU. The problem is: Why are you letting someone into your sacred space – your home, your womb – who does not show respect for you?
This is YOU disrespecting yourself. Instead of focusing energy on fixing/changing your man or being there for him while he evolves (chances are low unless he is the catalyst for his own growth), put your energy on yourself. It’s time to look within at your little girl and find out what happened at a young age to set up this pattern of “accepting less” than what you know to be honorable, good and true for you.
It’s time to be there for yourself 100%. Show up for yourself every moment of every day. Tune into what makes you happy, and keep doing it. If being with your man in his moments of acceptable behavior gives you an energetic boost, fills you with joy, makes you feel whole and happy — it is most likely some sort of polarizing energy that is happening, and your inner emotional addict getting their fix. It is not true love. To find true love, one must first turn inward and love thyself. Then you will find different people gravitating into your life, people who will treat you as you are treating yourself. It all starts with YOU. Until you get that, you will keep pulling in men that treat you less than you desire to be treated. Stop the cycle – find happiness and wholeness within, starting today.”
One of the comments really keyed in to me on the part of the man being perfect the way he is. The person that commented didn’t see things this way at all. She asked how an abuser could be perfect and how the situation could be the fault of the abused who would therefore not be deserving of sympathy or help.
My response was that I don’t think this is about condoning abusive behavior or putting fault anywhere, rather it’s about looking at your part in allowing the abuse to continue. If you are in a relationship with someone who is abusing you, you don’t want to use your energy to change that person’s behavior. It would be more helpful to spend that energy looking deeper into why you’re allowing someone to treat you dishonorably. If the abused is not willing to look at this and help herself, then no one’s sympathy or help will do any good.
The part about him being perfect is about just being human and as such, being perfect the way we are. We are all learning on the planet and wherever we are on the path is exactly where we need to be for our learning. If we are an abuser or an abused, there is huge learning for both sides and it’s where we need to be to learn.
With the Sedona Soul Retrieval Method you will learn how to take total ownership for everything in your life. It is easy to take ownership for the good things in our life. It’s the challenging person and situations that make us want to blame and project and not go inside.
by Debra | May 2, 2016
Our physical pain can be a message to look at our Spiritual path?
Usually our first thought when we feel pain of any kind is “What’s going on with my body?” We don’t connect it to our spiritual awakening. Pain, whether subtle or harsh, is a call for action. It’s time to look at what we are avoiding on our spiritual path.
I have facilitated retreats where people come in with backaches, constipation, chronic headaches, or just unexplained body pain. Midway through the retreat, they mention that their pain is easing up and one client, the constipated one, said she finally felt as though her body let go of a lot of the trauma and therefore was actually able to really let go!
Our body issues are connected to our emotional state. If we are holding onto our old wounding and limiting beliefs, they will settle in our bodies somewhere. Participating in an intensive retreat will give you the opportunity to release old trauma that may be affecting your life negatively.
If we are in need of being in control of our life because of past abuse, it could affect our stomach, shoulders or back. If we can work through our old wounding, we release the trauma in our bodies that has been holding on for a long time. In a retreat, we look at what wounds you have suffered during childhood, what old beliefs you have attached to those wounds and how to shift and create new beliefs and release the trauma of the wounds.
Our physical bodies are great indicators of what is going on with us emotionally. Our first impulse when we feel pain is to remove it by taking medication such as aspirin, antacids, etc. Before trying to rid yourself of the pain through medicine, try sinking into what is really going on. I suggest sitting somewhere and going inside to your feelings around the pain. Then, sink deeper into the sensation in your body. You may be surprised when childhood situations come up. Stay with the sensations and try not to let yourself go into the old wounding/story.
Sometimes while sitting with the feelings, you will notice that they leave your body as fast as they have come. If you would like to go deeper into your emotional and physical pain, let’s talk.
by Debra | Apr 25, 2016
Can you recognize the dark side of fear and move toward the light of love?
When we hold on to our fear, we block any love that might come to us and any love we might want to give. We actually block the flow of energetic love that could move through us, and back out into the world.
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
At some point in all of our lives, we have experienced fear. It can be an underlying current of anxiety or it can be total terror. We can be aware of when and why it’s here or we can be completely unconscious of it.
I refer to the little girl, ego, thoughts, etc. which usually have a fair amount of fear around them. Even if the emotion starts out with anger, frustration, or sadness, it is cloaked in fear. We all have fear regarding certain situations. The most important thing is not to act out of that fear, but rather to recognize it, track it and transform it into love.
I was talking with a client today and we were discussing when that lower part of her is trying to control her partner because she is afraid. She is afraid of him never showing up for her the way her little girl needs him too, or she is afraid of him not doing what’s in their kid’s best interest. Either way, she has expectations of how he needs to be and is in a state of fear when he isn’t.
We discussed what it looks like to live in our higher self, walking with our higher power and if our higher power is fearful. Our higher power is pure unconditional love and acceptance. Our higher power, whatever this is for you, God, Jesus, The Universe, Source, has NO fear!
Every time we get triggered, an element of fear will come up. The most important thing in that moment of fear is what action we will take. Will we allow our lower self, little girl, to lead the way, or will we lean into our higher power and be guided by pure love?
“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.”
-Marianne Williamson
Choose love over living in your wounded self. Take the action that is about love, not the action of the little girl that is drenched with expectations and fear.
by Debra | Apr 18, 2016
Emptying Your Energetic Reserves: The Stressful Daily Grind
Sometimes, you might have a bad day, and your energy levels take a hit. You might even feel drained for two or three days following a major stressful event. You can recover from the occasional bad time, but an unfortunate amount of people are attempting to live with depleted energy levels every day. Constant stress, poor sleeping and eating habits, lack of exercise and other imbalances lead to illness. Not only does this worsen your quality of life, but it also makes you less productive. How can you expect to accomplish your goals if you barely have enough energy to function?
Replenishing Energy: How to Fill Yourself Back up
What you need to replenish your energy depends on whether you’re an introverted or extroverted person. Introverts refuel their energy reserves by spending quiet time alone. Extroverts are replenished by spending time with people. There’s nothing wrong with either type. They are just different. Knowing this about yourself will give you some clues on what you should plan for your replenishing time.
Once you determine whether you need quiet time or social time, focus on setting aside a weekend or a few days to get back in balance. During this time, don’t think of yourself as a worker, a parent or a spouse. Think of yourself as “you.” This is an opportunity to go deep with yourself and maybe even learn something you weren’t aware of before. Journal, talk with friends or simply spend time in nature. You’ll be amazed at the difference you feel after providing yourself with the energy you need to properly function.
Never think of “you” time as selfish. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of other people. When your mental, spiritual and physical needs are fulfilled, you will have all the energy required to take you far.
by Debra | Apr 11, 2016
What does it look like to align your spiritual and physical body in a Sedona Soul Retrieval Retreat?
Even though we can’t see it with the naked eye, everything in our universe is in a constant state of motion. This motion, also referred to as vibration, reflects on what’s happening on a spiritual, mental and physical level. All things have a certain vibration, from a rock on the ground to a fully functional human being. When the vibrations of our physical and emotional bodies are out of alignment with the world around us, it can cause disease.
1. Connecting to the Earth
When you’re feeling out of balance, one of the quickest ways to fix the problem is to go outside. Sunlight, fresh air, and the bare ground can all work wonders on our vibrations. It’s a good idea to spend at least 15 to 20 minutes outside each day if you can. If you don’t have a private yard to enjoy, consider a short walk to a local park. Even a few minutes sitting in the grass will make a difference.
2. Natural Foods
How can you be in alignment if you don’t feed your body properly? Junk foods, high-fructose corn syrup, trans fats and preservatives all weigh your body down. By choosing a natural diet based on healthy whole foods, you’ll give yourself the best shot at staying balanced.
3. Sound Healing
Music is especially vibrant. It has the power to move people both physically and emotionally. Ancient shamans recognized this, which is why they began using chants and drumming in healing ceremonies. In many ancient cultures, healing with sound was considered a solid science. The right sounds can actually clear physical and emotional blockages, restoring harmony to the entire body and soul.
4. Connecting to your Higher Self
Spend time in the morning and before bed connecting to yourself and your higher power. Pray, meditate, or just simply have a conversation with your higher power about what intentions you want to create for the day and how you did at the end of the day.
