In a Sedona Soul Retreat you can see how pain might be your teacher.
Is both emotional and physical pain a reminder to slow down, pay attention and look at what is going on in our life? It’s interesting how with both physical and emotional pain we immediately go to this place of making it stop. We are a culture of looking at the symptom and fixing it. Instead of going inside and looking at why we have this emotional or physical pain.
If we look at what Louise Hay says about a headache, invalidating the self, self-criticism or fear, then instead of rushing to take aspirin to relieve the headache we may want to go a little deeper into the underlying reasons. Another interesting thing she says is abut coughing being a desire to bark at the world “See me! Listen to me!”
This gives us insight into why we might get headaches or why we might be coughing or any other illness that we have physically. And when it comes to our emotional pain we also want to run from it and not feel it. But our emotional pain gives us insight into what wounding we have that needs to be healed. If we are extremely sad because we just had a breakup with her partner we might not want to mask these feelings with staying busy, drinking or otherwise medicating. We may want to go into what our true feelings are which may be feeling separate, lonely, or not connected to source or ourselves.
I remember when I broke up with a partner; I had such a feeling of aloneness, of being separate and detached. I realized that I had been feeling this most of my life because of my childhood. Instead of running from these feelings and filling my days with anything to not feel it, I decided to sit with it and feel it and love and embrace it. I moved through the feelings of not being connected to source and came out feeling a deep connection.
It’s so important when we have physical aliments or emotional feelings to go inward and to see what they are trying to tell us. I find this so important to do. It might be a good idea to journal about it. If you have a spiritual teacher she may be able to help you understand this deeper.
There are so many spiritual things to do in Sedona
Sedona is a spiritual hub for healing. The land alone has active healing properties. If you are looking for spiritual things to do in Sedona you won’t be lacking. There are mystic land tours, vortex tours, crystal healing massages, psychic readings, and any other mind body spirit modality is available to you.
I offer an amazing soul retrieval where you go deep into your past wounds, bring understanding to them and start the healing process. The work that I bring to people allows for sustainable shifts. I know a lot of the programs make you feel wonderful while you’re in them and maybe a week after but usually old patterns start creeping in. I believe that the psycho-spiritual therapy is what gets to the core and unwinds limiting beliefs to allow us to move forward with healthier beliefs. And then if you add cranial sacral, massages, getting on the land or other modalities it is an added benefit and helps the healing process.
Our minds are what make us suffer so if we are not working to shift our minds through shifting our negative belief system, it won’t matter how much were on the land how many massages we get or any other modality for that matter, we probably won’t shift.
It is our ego minds belief that completely gets us twisted in the drama of life situations. If it weren’t for ego minds, we would see each situation as a neutral event that wasn’t happening to us. Our ego tells us that everything is about us and that we need to change the situation or people to feel better. When we are looking outside of ourselves to feel better this will bring added suffering. Life is life and not everything is rosy in life. We need to work with our mind to be okay with life’s ups and downs so that we are not low when something that we view as negative happens or extremely high when something we view is good happens.
Imagine if we could see all of life’s experiences as opportunities for us to go deeper into ourselves and learn more about ourselves, instead of out of control tragedies.
Is our heart our home, Sedona Soul Retreats is a great way to deeper into yourself.
Does the brain rule the heart? Spiritual teachers and now science has found evidence that that points to the heart as our home of consciousness. I am currently reading Untethered Soul by Michael Singer for the second time, he that talks about pure consciousness and how it is the observer of everything. Pure consciousness is the observer of our body, which encompasses our brain and our heart.
Some believe that the consciousness is in our heart, while others believe that our pure consciousness is the observer of everything, organs, body, and mind. It feels right to me when there is a trigger in my life and I feel it in my heart, it is because my mind is attaching to a certain belief. When I put myself in the seat of the observer, pure consciousness, where I can be impartial. When my emotions get hooked, its tough for me to see the situation for what it really is.
I know that my heart lets me know what I am feeling sometimes, and my stomach is also a good indicator of an upset. But this is after a trigger that these areas get engaged. If I am the observer, pure consciousness and I’m really good at that, I would see the situation as just a neutral event and not get triggered at all. This is my goal for sure but not always what happens.
In my Sedona Soul Retreats, you will learn to recognize your triggers and be better equipped to step back and see things from this place in you as the observer. You will have a deeper understanding of how your shadow side operates, how to be the observer and not take damaging actions that expand your ego mind. You will start to make better decisions for yourself, love yourself more and create healthier relationships with others.
A Soul Retrieval could be added to your list of things to do in Sedona!
There are so many things to do in Sedona that are both entertaining and healing. If you want to go on a land adventure, there are jeep tours, land tours, Segway tour, hiking and swimming in the creek. If you are looking for healing, Sedona is also an amazing place to come for transformation.
Sedona has 15-20 powerful energy vortexes – giant magnets of earth energy concentrated in a specific locations, each with specific patterns, rhythms, and qualities. When enough spiritual phenomena occur at one locale, ancient people eventually recognized it as a “sacred” place. Sacred site experts note the presence of fault lines, volcanic activity, an abundance of subsurface water, and concentrations of mineral ores at so-called sacred places, as well as noting centuries of ceremonial activity – all of which describe Sedona.
This is why Sedona is a perfect place to heal.
I do 2-5 hour Soul Retrievals for people looking to powerfully shift their lives and get to know themselves more deeply, to understand their reactions more clearly, and live with more passion, love and light in their lives.
Even if you were coming to Sedona for a vacation, it would be a great experience for yourself or for you and your partner. A Soul Retrieval journey is an opportunity to shift your perceptive quickly, and have sustainable results. Once you have shifted it is impossible to see things the same way you once did. You will understand why blaming the outside situations or people leave you in a powerless place, forgiveness is key to your healing, and how letting your mind call all the shots is a crazy place to live.
Once you start seeing things through the eyes of your pure Consciousness/higher self, things will look completely different. You will see how you attach to the emotions of situations and allow them to take you down the rabbit hole instead of watching the situation and yourself.
This isn’t an easy thing to master but my Soul Retrievals put you in a great space to clear, practice and learn. There are so many people who come through Sedona looking to be on a vacation and be entertained. What if along with your vacation you could experience transformational healing as well?
Why is it so difficult for women to put themselves first? It is also very difficult for us to say no even when it’s good for us. It is so important for us to learn when to say no to take care of ourselves. We don’t know the instructions when we fly, if are flying with a child if something happens we are supposed to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first and then the child. But in our day-to-day life we are always meeting others needs before our own. It is so easy to put off our self-care until we get overwhelmed or exhausted and then we don’t have the energy to take care of others who count on us. This is when we actually realize that we haven’t been caring for our self properly.
Will we be able to see that caring for ourselves isn’t selfish, it just makes sense? It makes more sense for me to put myself first so that I can show up for others in a more effective way. Putting yourself first means that you may have to say no to other people in order to say yes to you. Oddly enough if you take care of yourself and deny care to someone else you may feel very guilty. It’s important to let that part of us know that caring for ourselves is being loving to ourselves and to others.
Learning to say no when you know it doesn’t serve you is such a great learning. Most women who come to my spiritual retreats are in the process of learning to take care of themselves. Other ways that you can care for yourself besides just saying no are you small daily rituals like meditating, journaling, taking a bath at night, or just getting into bed early and reading. Just remembering how important it is for self-care, and knowing that if we are not taking care of ourselves that we are not showing up wholly or holy in our lives.
At one point in my life I thought I wanted a Guru to help me with my spiritual guidance. Even though I have a teacher that holds me accountable, I have come to realize that life experiences are my true teachers and guru.
If I treat life experiences like the opportunities that they are to grow and expand my development, my growth could literally be constant. I’m always amazed at how life shows up for me perfectly to learn what I need to learn for my evolution. Every situation that occurs could be a chance to for me to shift my awareness and learn. There are many opportunities throughout the day where I am given the opportunity to explore my mind. I just have to pay attention.
Something as simple as getting triggered because someone pulled out in front of me while driving is a perfect opportunity for me to look at my behaviors and shift them. Any time you get triggered you can pull your energy from the outside and go inward for growth. I think having a teacher/mentor is important because they can hold you accountable and help you see things that you can’t see from the inside. Unless a Guru is doing one-on-one work with you, he will just be feeding you with enlightening words that you will have to process through anyway.
If we look at one given day and look at the many ways we may contract during situations, we have plenty of data to do our work. Whether it is something simple like your husband ignoring you, your kids sassing you, your boss not recognizing you for the work you’ve done or your mother criticizing you, these are all great situations to check in with how your mind is seeing things. We have everything we need to do our work and grow, it’s just a matter of paying attention to how our mind is seeing things and shifting its perspective.
How do we live our life in alignment with a partner?
What does it look like to be in relationship and stay in alignment with yourself? I used to go into relationships without looking at a few key points that might play a part in the relationship working. I think that for the most part people go into relationship because they have an outer attraction to someone or an need to not be alone. This doesn’t necessarily mean that all people do this but I would say a fair amount.
I think it’s hard to go into a partnership with someone if we do not know ourselves well and at least have a fair amount of love for ourselves. If we don’t love ourselves totally at least we know the areas where we don’t and we are working on them.
Through my own experiences with men I have noticed that my lack of knowledge and love for myself has always put me into a relationship that does not serve me. Usually what I am lacking in myself they will also be lacking as well.
So the question is can I live in alignment with a partner if I’m out of alignment with myself? The way I see this is if I am aware of where I am out of alignment and I am actively working on those areas and my partner is also aware and actively working on them, we may be able to have a relationship that is in alignment. Alignment doesn’t mean that we’ve arrived, that we are enlightened. For me being aligned is simply moving forward in my personal growth and only being in partnership with those who are doing the same.
I went on a date with this man that was telling me that instead of processing through my woundedness to heal maybe I could just be love and light. Here is where the being out of alignment comes in. For me I need to observe areas where I am triggered and have an understanding of them before I can move into love and compassion for others or myself. For me it’s not as simple as “Oh, I’ll just be love and light.” So if I were to be in relationship with this man that thought this way, he might be trying to move me into love and light before I was ready. It’s simply just a difference in the way we process. No wrong no right just different.
This is why my couple’s retreat is so powerful. By both people coming in and learning about themselves and each other you can get on the same page. So many times I have seen women that are on completely different page than their partners, most of time it’s a different book.
Many of us believe that to get relaxation we need to leave our homes. What ends up happening is that we are always working and saving for a vacation so we can go and relax. What if your home was a place you could come home to and rejuvenate and relax. How do we experience the state of relaxation that we have on vacations in the comforts of our own home?
It seems like we give ourselves permission to let go when were on vacation. Why can’t we give ourselves the same permission while we are at home, even with our schedules and routines? What makes relaxing challenging is all of our routine tasks that need to be addressed. So how do we create an environment to help us relax in the midst of our crazy lives?
The first thing is to realize that everything does not need to be done now, like the cleaning of a mess and other tasks. We need to realize that relaxing is as important as our physical nourishment. Just like eating, relaxing is every bit as important.
I think that creating an environment in your home that feels calming is the most important. So even putting aside one hour and night for everyone to just chill. If you have kids they can be chilling while they’re doing their homework in their rooms while you and your husband put on a little easy music and exchange shoulder massages, maybe have a different beverage that doesn’t have to be wine, in a wineglass.
Allowing yourself to get out of the rut of your schedules and tasks to just do something completely pleasurable. Your responsibilities will be there when you’re ready to pick them up again. This may be hard to do for some of you, and it might be a good idea to pay attention to the anxiety that you are feeling while trying to relax in your home when there’s things to be done. There is always going to be something that needs to be done. This is one of the reasons why I offer the remote retreat in the comforts of your own home so that you can do your personal work and still be at home.
It’s very important to pencil in on your to do list time to nurture yourself. If you don’t put it in your schedule it will probably never happen because life gets the best of us and we go into autopilot. Make it a point to try this even if it’s for 30 minutes every night. It can be meditating, sitting and talking with each other, exchanging backrubs or anything else that you find relaxing.
How do we stay centered incomplete chaos? When things are upside down in our life it’s tough to hear that inner voice that has all the wisdom. This is my meditation is so important, to be able to sit in silence, breathing, allowing that higher place in us to show up.
We know that our ego minds will keep us in the shadow side and that it is pretty constant. It’s our practice to move from our ego mind into that higher mind that knows the truth.
A practice that works for me is when my ego mind is talking I simply say “Thank you for sharing that that’s not how I see things.” By speaking these words I’m able to move out of my limiting beliefs into a new way of seeing things. The quicker I catch myself in my ego thinking, the better able I am to move into my higher mind. Once my ego mind gets on a roll it gains momentum and it is tougher for me to move out of it.
When I’m coming from a place of fear, which my ego mind is all about. The decisions that I make are not heart centered with compassion and love. My true self is love-based not fear. The retreats that I do with individuals, adult daughters and mothers, teen daughters and mothers and couples, teaches you how to be in our hearts with love not fear. You will leave the retreat with total understanding of how your ego mind works and how you operate from it, creating more fear in your life instead of more love.
All of us feel better when were coming from our heart space not fear. When we are coming from fear we may have anxiety sadness hopelessness or anger. It is okay to experience these because it’s a natural part of our life, but to live through these emotions keeps us in a suffering state.
How hard is it for you to trust your feeling? Is it easy for you to stay open-minded?
Being open-minded means that you’re willing to look at everything, including the things that you have discomfort with. This means challenging your beliefs and values at any given moment. Then after you really examine your feelings about a situation, then and only then can you make a good decision for yourself.
If I’m reading a book where I am exploring new ideas if I don’t allow my mind the open space to see if I resonate with it, I may either accept this book as truth or discarded without knowing. The key to this is to be able to really examine what’s being said and if it resonates with us.
The problem with this is that sometimes if we do not understand the different parts of our mind; ego mind versus higher mind we may not know what part of our mind we are making our decisions from. If we know the distinction between these two parts of our minds then it will be easier for us to decipher what resonates with us and what doesn’t.
Know who you are and it is easier to trust yourself!
This can also happens with our feelings. If there is a situation and I get a feeling in my body, I need to know if that feeling is coming from a trigger or a true warning. Sometimes I will get an intuitive hit that will let me know when a situation is off. But I can also get that same discomfort when my ego/little girl is activated. It is important for me to know which part of myself is coming up. An intuitive hit and a trigger can feel very similar. It can be nervousness in my stomach or tightness in my chest, to let me know something is off or my ego has hijacked me.
In my personal retreat I teach people how to recognize the difference so they are not acting out of their ego mind. It is so important to know the difference so that if a situation does come up or you are exposed to a new idea, you can accept it through your higher self.
It’s important to pause and just hold space for what we are feeling, sink into it and decipher if this is something we want to be open to and it’s right for us. These opportunities come many times throughout the day where we can choose to buy into a new idea, a different way of being, or a chance to shift and a limiting belief.
How powerful is it to experience an adult mother-daughter retreat?
I have been getting so many requests for mother-daughter retreats with adult daughters. I work with women to help them go deeper into themselves, to notice their patterns, and to shift limiting beliefs and to hopefully live a more joyous life. The work that I do with mother-daughter retreats is working separately with the mother and the daughter to look at their own wounding and how they are acting out of that wounded place in them.
It’s very similar to doing couples retreats because we are not working on the relationship; we are working individually on their old beliefs and how it shows up in the relationship. So it is the same with the mother daughter retreat. Both people get to know themselves really well and how they are reacting to their triggers, so they organically start showing up differently in the relationship.
I have seen shifts many times in the family dynamic while working with just one person in the family. I worked with a woman who had six children and a husband thank goodness, that shifted her entire family by recognizing her own patterns and shifting them. I have seen this in my own life as well as with my clients time after time.
I work with mothers and teenage daughters where the biggest shift is with the mother doing her work. Most of the time when moms call me telling me they want me to work with their daughter because their daughter is acting out, I would much prefer to work with the mother. I notice in the work that I do with adult daughters with their mothers is also very similar. We as mothers feel like we have to control and fix our kids, instead of allowing them the freedom to explore their life and own their own consequences.
By controlling and fixing people in general they feel like they can’t come to us and share so they shut down to us. I see it happening with teenagers and adult daughters all the time. It would look totally different if we were just allowing them to experience their own life and suffer their own consequences. We might be able to listen to their experience, have compassion and be detached from the emotions of their situation.
This takes practice and having an understanding of where your triggers come from so you cannot react from them.
When you are reacting in this present moment can you connect it to your past?
Our experiences from our past can influence our behavior in our present life. If we have unhealed wounds from our childhood they will show up in our adult life in a messy way. Our past experiences also have a profound effect on how we view the world and our lives now. Each of us responds to certain situations based on our past.
Have you noticed how after you’ve been triggered and you have reacted, when you reflect on your behavior you might be a bit shocked? When in reflection after a behavior that you’re not proud of, you might feel as if you behaved like child. This isn’t a coincidence, because when you are triggered, it is from your past experiences when you were actually a child.
You may have certain behaviors when you’re triggered like
Pouting
Throwing a tantrum
Screaming
Throwing things
Being a victim
Blaming
Arguing
Sarcasm
Reflect on your behaviors when you are triggered and see if you can track it back to childhood.
It’s important to know your wounding as a child so that you can understand your triggers and shift your beliefs around them. This is the work I do in personal retreats to uncover limiting beliefs so that you’re able to shift them. Our limiting beliefs can play havoc in our present life. If we continue to react from past experiences this will affect all of the relationships in our life including the one with our self and our connection to our higher power.
If you have an understanding of why you get triggered you will be able to modify your thought process, start thinking through your higher mind instead of your little girl, ego mind. It is not easy to break these patterns and start responding differently. In my personal retreat you will learn what your wounds are, the old beliefs attached to them, how you get triggered and how to shift your behavior.
It’s important for our sense of self to learn how to behave from a higher place of being. When we act out of our woundedness, we usually have a lot of guilt and shame about our behavior. When we beat ourselves up about our behavior it damages our self-esteem. So the more we act from a higher way of being the better we feel about ourselves.
