I remember being in a group workshop when I was 32-years-old where our goal was to overcome our fears. When I enrolled in this powerful group workshop, I had no idea what I was in for.
This was Spiritual Guidance on steroids!
We started out with about 50 people and as the program continued, it dwindled down to 26 scared, intimated, and determined few with strong desires to overcome huge obstacles that had been running their lives.
Fears will run our lives if we let them! How spiritual guidance can control the fear.
We may always have certain fears and if we hear and acknowledge them, that’s okay. But if we act through them, that is another story. Here’s where spiritual guidance plays a role. A typical fear of many people is being embarrassed in front of others. If we can understand why we have this fear and bring compassion to ourselves around it, that would be a loving way to be with ourselves. But, what happens is we do what our little girl/ego is telling us to do or not do; this is where the trouble starts. An example of this might be, I have a fear of speaking in public. Because of what I do for a living, it would be nice for me to be able to go into groups and speak in order to help them. If I let this fear of speaking in public run my life, I wouldn’t go into the world and be of service because I would be afraid of doing something wrong, making a mistake, etc.
Speaking in public used to be a big fear of mine. It still gives me a bit of a twinge, but I never let it stop me from doing it. I would always put myself in situations where I would have to move through those fears so that they wouldn’t own me. This is where the real value of spiritual guidance comes in.
While in this spiritual guidance workshop, I had to do things that would put me face to face with my personal demons. First, I went to a mall and did cartwheels throughout it. Very embarrassing! Then, I went to work and had to speak in front of a group of people, and I decided to get a double-whammy out of it because I decided not to wear make-up. Not wearing make-up was a big fear when I was younger. I didn’t really want to be seen.
So, after a while of making myself continue to walk through these difficult situations, these fears, it became easier and easier. I wouldn’t say I love public speaking, but I can do it without throwing up.
Fears are all about the story our inner child is telling us!
If I get up in front of people and speak, I will do something wrong and people will judge me and I will die. I know this sounds extreme, but our inner child is extreme. We have a choice to either believe the story and act out of that place, or tell the little girl that you understand why she has these beliefs but that you aren’t going to buy into them. Then no matter what, don’t take the action your little girl/ego is telling you.
Our fears come in all different degrees, from little ones that are fairly easy to overcome to huge ones that paralyze us. No matter what size they are, don’t let them run your life. Take control over them and shift the old limiting beliefs around them.
We can be our own spiritual guidance counselor by just staying awake to what stories our inner child is telling us and not acting out of them.
