I just concluded a 2½ day intensive Sedona couples retreat. It was such an honor to be in the presence of such dedication and love between two people. The goal in a retreat for couples is to help them gain a better understanding of their own old beliefs that were created through their childhood wounding. Once they become fully aware of their old beliefs, they can begin to see how they operate from their inner child.
We know ourselves! We know each other!
If both people in the relationship understand how they operate from this wounded place and also see how their partner is operating from their inner child, they will begin to be able to show up differently and heal their childhood wounds.
Primary relationships bring up our deepest wounding so that we can change our beliefs around them and start the healing process. If both partners are doing this process, there will be an amazing transformation.
When we operate out of the fear of the wounded child, we actually strengthen the old belief instead of diminish it. When we work with our partner about what triggers us in a healthy, conscious way, we will shift the old, limiting beliefs.
Being in a primary relationship will push us to do our core work. If we don’t do our inner work, our relationship suffers, and so do we. When I assist in couple’s work, the process and healing speeds up.
See what the husband in this relationship said about the retreat:
“I came to this retreat mostly to appease my wife, sister and mother but ended up getting more from it than anyone. The exploration into the understanding as to why I act how I do in life was amazing. The tools I’ve learned to change for the better by shifting my old belief systems are the ones I hope to continue for life.
There are no drawbacks to doing this work. No matter how fine you think your life or way of doing things may be, it is worth looking into your past to see why you are who you are.”
~Dominic Vincent
It is tough to create a harmonious, loving relationship with your primary partner. It is also so rewarding to have such a deep understanding of why you and your partner behave the way you do and be working toward a more conscious, fulfilling partnership.
